the most hated comment i hate to hear is - SIAL AH GRAND SIAK KAU PUNYA 

in person, even if someone is mean and hateful towards me, i'm very calm and collected even if that person is verbally abusing me. just don't expect me to be talking to that person the next time round i see him/her. but every time i heard someone telling me/us that our wedding is grand, we shouldn't be spending so much money, bla3, i get very agitated. 

and i'm blogging about it now. 

do you have any idea how an average malay wedding in singapore is like?! if i wanted huge, grand wedding, i'd have insisted on having our wedding at some 5* hotel, with at least 50 tables. or, maybe book the indoor hall at the Flower Dome or Burkin Hill, or best, book the entire hall at the Singapore Expo Hall. i'd have my event run for at least 2 days, have two separate locations - one for him, one for me, and have at least 1000 pax invited from each side. i'll have at least two "live" stations on my buffet line, not to mention my candy and photobooth corner and oh, my wedding entourage will also consist of at least 5 girls, and 5 guys. amacam, grand tak? oh not enough? 

pre-wedding photoshoot i'd have insisted to have it done overseas, either in Santorini or Paris, and i'd die die, have a post-wedding photoshoot at my chosen honeymoon destination preferably in africa (super big dream of mine to go there to see animals in the wild) and when i mean photoshoot, i'll insist on having fandy razak and fatimah mohsin tagging along with us. i'd have all my outfits customized and i'd have engage a wedding planner to assist me with all the wedding preparations. oh, instead of just having a buffet lunch for sanding, i'd also want to have a sit down dinner at some posh hotel to end off my day. 

that is my idea of grand. so don't preach to me ever about how we're wasting money. i think we i have done enough homework and research to know how much we're really spending and if it's worth the money. just because *certain* items on our wedding trays and branded, doesn't mean i'm out to squeeze every single cent from Farley. 

true, jentayu gallery, fmtwg and studiodua may not be the cheapest wedding vendors around but let me ask you this bonus question: are you pitching in money for our wedding? don't feed me bullshit like "oh, as a friend/family we're concerned about you wasting money" because you weren't concerned when we were down and way broke years ago. 

WERE YOU THERE FOR US? NO.

why is it so damn difficult for you people to just ride on our happiness, be happy for us and wish us all the best? so many sour puss around this world. 

the worst kind of people around that i've lately notice are the kind that always, always preach about how a "true Muslim wedding must not cost so much". i can go on, and on about how much i detest anyone like that. and people, notice that whoever who preaches about it are usually men with no girlfriends or are unmarried? one of my fiance's friend is one of them and i cannot fathom how much i loathe him. sometimes, i have this really strong urge to just send him a really nasty message on facebook. you imagine, you want your future wife to be sexy and beautiful, someone who knows how to take care of his husband e.g. cleans and cooks, and will be faithful and loyal to him. someone who will literally treat him like he owns her. kalau kau johnny depp boleh ah kau mintak cam gitu begap! 

oh, then there's the kind who says this to me - "kau boleh lah belanja besar untuk wedding kau. kau takder commitment, aku ada banyak." @#$@#$@#%R@$@#(*% 

do a quick mental calculation, and you definitely will know that our wedding cost us a rough estimate of $30 - $40K which is an average cost of a malay wedding in Singapore. So..... just because you think it's expensive, both Farley and I have to settle for a home nikah? (not that it's anything bad lah, but both of us die die want to sanding cos it's like a once in a lifetime maaaaaaa)

and what no commitment?! i have Amelia. i have the future house. i have my family, he has his family and we have our savings to look after. WHAT NO COMMITMENT AGAIN?!

so, to sum up this blog entry which quite frankly, only took me 20 minutes to draft out because i'm that pissed off about the said topic, CAN YOU GUYS JUST BE HAPPY FOR US TAK?! our parents are all so supportive of our wedding plans/ideas, why can't you guys be too? it'd mean the world to us if everyone can just clam down, take a deep breath and attend the wedding with a big fat open heart. 

p/s: this blog entry was drafted out after reading a certain comment on a certain someone's facebook. i'm pretty sure family members who read this blog will terasa (be it either my family or his) but if you all rasa that you've done no such thing, then don't terasa ok? every bride needs to rant occasionally ;)